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Comfort food

"what's your favorite comfort food that reminds you of a happy moment in childhood, huh?"

A root beer float on the front porch, on a warm August night, my dad listening to baseball on the radio, while I sip and watch fireflies in the front yard.

Amen!

Ask the Pilot says on Salon this week:

It dawns on me that as I've spent thousands of words and, probably, too much of readers' time analyzing this stuff over the past few weeks, I've danced and dallied around the central point. Allow me to quote Bruce Schneier, the author and security guru, who in a recent blog entry more elegantly sums things up:

"The point of terrorism is to cause terror. The people terrorists kill are not the targets; they are collateral damage. And blowing up planes, trains, markets or buses is not the goal; those are just tactics. The real targets of terrorism are the rest of us: the billions of us who are not killed but are terrorized because of the killing. The real point of terrorism is not the act itself, but our reaction to the act. And we're doing exactly what the terrorists want."

Bolivia

(huayño by Gonzalo Hermosa (Los Kjarkas))

Ser tu bravura ser la fuerza y juventud
De tu letargo mudo la voz, la inquietud
Bolivia...
Quiero pegar un grito de liberación
Despues de un siglo y medio de humillación

Quiero tengan tus días destino mejor
Y el futuro sonría prometedor
Bolivia...
En la falda de tus cerros haré mi hogar
Donde felices los niños iran a jugar

Bolivia...

The Return

Been sort of quiet around here lately.

I'll break the silence with a meme stolen from vidiot

Cities where I spent one or more nights in 2005:

• San Diego, CA
  
• San Jose, CA
  
• Davenport, IA
• Chicago, IL
• Boston, MA
• Arlington, TX

Heh. Not bad -- that list includes most of my favorite cities.

Shooting Star

Wow. I was on my balcony this evening, looking at the night, and I saw a shooting star. It was huge and red, flaming across the western sky, looking as though it were low to the ground. Lower even than the airplanes flying overhead, landing and taking off from the airport. But that was probably an illusion.

I was so surprised. I'm sure I've seen a meteor in the sky before, but I can't remember when.

I was so surprised, I forgot to make a wish.

But, it's just as well I forgot. I don't believe in wishes any more. No wishes, no dreams, no grand goals.

Sure, those things are fine sometimes. It feels good to imagine what could be, what might be, all the possibilities and then sorting through to choose the one I'd like the best.

But, I've had it with that. No more. I'm tired of the disappointments. Tired of the wishes that fall to earth in flames, like a shooting star.

The 7 Dangerous Habits of Chronically Single People

1. Eating badly because, frankly, cooking for one is a pain and fast food is, well, fast and cheap
2. Never closing the bathroom door
3. Licking the drips from the hot sauce bottle, because, after all, it's only your own germs you're sharing with yourself
   
4. Not restraining those bodily noises
5. Rinsing a spoon and leaving it out to reuse, because (see item 3)
   
6. Developing a high tolerance for dust (resulting in the side effect of a mad rush of cleaning prior to the arrival of visitors)
7. Self-indulgence -- doing whatever you want, whenever you want, spending money without discussion or consensus

PS, to whoever may come to visit: re item 3, I *promise* to buy a fresh bottle in advance!

PPS: is item 7 really a *dangerous* habit??

What a week!

The Weekly Review at Harper's published September 13th

where, we discover, reality was as surreal as any parody

Which goddess are you?

I ran across a Goddess Archetype Questionnaire the other day and decided to see how they rated me.

Out of the 7 goddesses from the Greek pantheon the questionnaire uses, it turns out that I match Persephone (underworld, mystery) by a wide margin. Following not far behind her in the rankings were Athena (career, wisdom, accomplisher) and Hestia (spiritual focus).

WAY down at the bottom of the rankings were Demeter (mother, nurturer) and Hera (wife, helpmate).

Apart from my giving, empathetic nature =) it is true that mother and wife, in the traditional sense, are not my roles.

It's also amusing to me that it's Persephone that I matched. Not because it's not apt, because it is -- very much so, I'd say. Rather, it has to do with Mictlancihuatl (Persephone's counterpart in the Aztec tradition) who I've written about before.

Nevertheless, I'm pleased to have come out on the side of these often misunderstood "dark" female spirits. Here's to the goddesses in my own personal pantheon:

Mictlancihuatl	Persephone	Medusa
More on Persephone at: Encyclopedia Mythica Wikipedia Classical Myth
	One hot mama

Dreaming 2

I had a strange dream last night.

I was falling asleep. In my mind, I was not asleep yet, but later, after the dream, when I woke up and saw it was only one hour after I'd gone to bed, I realized I had been sleeping. During the dream, I didn't realize I was dreaming.

Here's the dream I had:

I was lying in my bed, here in this apartment where I am living, in the period just after going to bed while you are waiting to fall asleep. I was lying on my right side, as I usually do. With my right arm under the pillow that my head was on, as it usually is. With my left arm around another pillow and my left hand tucked under my chin, as they usually are. Lying on the right side of the bed, as I usually do. Wearing the nightshirt I usually wear.

Things started turning strange, making me feel troubled and disturbed. I noticed I had put a finger in my mouth to suck on. (But, I thought in my dream, I don't do that! ... or do I and I didn't know??? ... could there be something like that about myself I never knew??)

Then, my ex was in bed with me. He didn't do anything, but he was there. And as the moments passed, he moved closer to me, not to "do" anything, just to be close and to be in contact with me in sleep. But, I didn't want him there! I pushed him away. He moved back. I pushed him away again, saying "leave me alone". He moved back. I continued protesting, more insistently.

Then, in my dream, I got up and walked out of my bedroom. Things had changed in my apartment. Little things... my table was "the same" but items were in disarray. Other objects in the apartment were either missing or had been moved. This was disturbing ... how had those items moved? ... how could things have been changed without my having been aware of it happening? ... who changed those things??

Then, feeling strange -- disquieted and disturbed -- I woke up.

It took some moments to realize that all of that had been a dream. In the midst of it, I thought I was awake. I'd *felt* awake the whole time.

I'm trying to figure out what this dream means, what the symbolism is trying to tell me.

Missing the intimacy and touch of a partner is a typical theme of mine. But do I really not want that? Would I reject it if it was offered to me?

Or ... did my ex, in the dream, represent a failed partnership, a bad decision in choice of partners.

Maybe I'm scared (still scared) I'll make another bad choice. That I'll end up with a messed up and disturbed life, again. That I'm afraid of the possibilities of conflict, fighting, and unhappiness.

I thought I was over those things ...

---

In fact, I am over them. I understand love. I understand possession and how to avoid it. I understand control and how to give it up. And I know how to give myself now, without giving *up* myself.

Dreaming

"Those who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who only dream by night."

Edgar Allan Poe, 1917
"Eleonora"

Rain, rain come again

It rained today ... !

It teased me a little on Monday, but the shower was so short, barely enough to get anything wet.

This afternoon it was a nice warm rain but with a coolness in its center, after a long spell of hot and dry. Uncountable moist drops drenching this parched space.

I went out on my balcony and stepped into the water falling from the clouds ... agua de las nubes, ya no en las nubes ...

I saw the droplets bead on my arms. I closed my eyes, and felt them strike my head, dampen my hair, moisten my cheeks.

What a feeling, what sensations ... so much of my world is in my head, not less real by being fueled by virtual interactions and written conversations and imagination, but still in my *head* ... without touch and smell, without the intense subtleties that the imagination can only reproduce as shadows.

In today's rain, I was given a little sip ... a small taste ... but now! now that I see how thirsty I've been, I want a full glass.

Tag you're it

Ok, not really. I mean I tagged¹ myself, so it doesn't count.

Nevertheless, I ended up here through some vagarity of my site logs, and the guy was bold enough to put this Q&A in conjunction with his resume. He invited people to copy and use, and so, I did.

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Do You have..

A nickname? ... Not really. In high school, my friends called me Saj (from my initials - pronounced "sadge"). Lately, I'm occasionally called Sarita.

A pet? ... I've had 3 cats and 2 dogs in the past (none simultaneously), but now, no. Oops... almost forgot the little lizard George, but he's not really a pet.

A car? ... 2005 MCS PW/B (Mini Cooper S, pepper white with black top and trim)

A GF / BF or Spouse? ... No (you don't want to get me started)

Kids? ... No, but I'm enjoying watching a co-worker's son grow up, and hearing the tales of the son of my best friend.

A problem? ... Occasional deep loneliness, but I do my best to ignore it.

A motto / sig? ... There's a line that separates reality from fantasy, but it's an imaginary line.

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What is your..

Religion? ... Some variety of intercultural paganistic gnostic-flavored awe with the mysteries of the universe

Political leaning? ... Liberal.

Best physical features? ... Hair, eyes, and an infectious risa explosiva² (yes, that's physical ... think lungs, vocal chords, brain)

Worst physical features? ... The extra pounds I can't seem to lose.

Best personality features? ... Empathy, intelligence, honesty.

Worst personality features? ... Social insecurity, expecting perfection from myself, self-indulgence.

Pet hate? ... Maliciousness.

Worst fear? ... Violence.

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Right now..

Where are you? ... At home.

What are you doing? ... Entertaining myself.

What are you listening to? ... "Chilanga Banda" by Café Tacvba

What are you watching on TV? ... CNN, but I'm not paying attention.

What are you looking forward to? ... San Jose, CA in November.

What are you not looking forward to? ... This one work project that's gonna be a bitch.

What is the nearest book you can see? ... "Blink" by Malcolm Gladwell.

What are you drinking / eating? ... Water.

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Who..

Is your best friend? ... My cosmic soul brother David.

Do you respect? ... Honest, intelligent, irreverent people.

Do you despise? ... well, "despise" is pretty harsh, but I avoid, or at least am wary of, anyone who is dishonest, manipulative, or just plain mean.

Makes you laugh? ... Absurdity in the form of inexpected, delightful synchronicity tinged with a little of the surreal.

Would you like to spend a day with? ... My dad. Just to see what might have happened if he'd lived.

Would you like to spend a day as? ... The me I see in my head (as opposed to the me I see in the mirror). Just to see if there's actually a difference.

Would you maroon on mars? ... umm ... is there broadband there yet?

Was your childhood hero(ine)? ... I don't think I had one.

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Who or what was the last..

Movie you watched? ... "Batman Begins"

Book you read? ... currently reading: "Aztec Autumn" by Gary Jennings; last completed: "Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince"

Song you heard? ... "All Said + Done" by Dios Malos

Person you kissed? ... My ex (since I'm sure this question was intended as "kissed in some romantic way"). Otherwise, my mom

Person that made you laugh? ... Polo Jasso

Person that you argued with? ... Someone at work

Newspaper you read? ... like, in paper? the student newspaper at the university where I work. Online: The Washington Post

Thing that made you mad? ... An idiotic management decision at work

Thing that made you cry? ... A sudden, olifactory memory of something I may never smell again first hand

Band you saw live? ... yikes. That would be Marco Antonio Solís and Joan Sebasti´n a year ago. But I'm seeing Santana and Robert Plant at the beginning of October.

Accident you had? ... umm ... can't remember

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How many..

Ex lovers? ... define "lover"

Previous Jobs? ... hoo boy, depends on how you count them. Let's just say I've been at it for 34 years (excluding the babysitting)

Scars? ... Spider bite on my right shin

Tattoos? ... none. not even fake ones

Piercings? ... earlobes, twice (each)

Pints a week? ... don't drink much. an occasional beer or glass of wine. or, depending on the company, something with tequila

CDs and DVDs you own? ... CDs. a couple hundred. DVDs a couple dozen (I've started late). But I still have some LPs, cassette tapes, and VHS tapes.

Books you own? ... Let's just say, if I had bookshelves in the form of the "normal" ones you might buy, they would be my biggest investment outside of my car and electronic devices

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Have you ever..

Taken illegal substances? ... define "illegal" =)

Been arrested? ... nope

Fought the system? ... why bother, if you're not a masochist?

Given blood? ... nope. but I know a vampire =)

Been abroad? ... yep. but not often enough nor for a long enough period of time

Lived out a fantasy? ... yes, but only in my mind (so far)

Achieved an ambition? ... yes, amazingly enough

Had your heart broken? ... so many times, I don't think it'd survive another one

Broken someone else's heart? ... as far as I know, no, although there might have been one that was bruised a little

Cheated on someone? ... no

Fiddled your taxes? ... no. that implies there is sufficient income and assets to make fiddling worthwhile

Been in love? ... I've thought so, several times. But, in reality, just once.

Been in lust? ... Used to be, almost all the time. Now, it's been so long, I'm not sure I remember how

Stayed in the hospital? ... Nope.

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What is the best..

Item you bought this week? ... Toe rings

Item you bought this year? ... My Mini Cooper

Thing that could happen today? ... Find out I'll have enough money to retire when I want to

Thing that someone could say to you? ... Sarah, I love you, please stay.

Present you ever got? ... Three times in the past 32 years friends have thrown me a great birthday party. I still don't fully understand why they did it, but I'm forever grateful.

Holiday you ever had? ... The month I spent traveling in August 1978

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Favorite..

Food? ... Dairy Queen soft-serve ice cream

Music? ... The Beatles; most anything recorded in the 1960s and 1970s (pre-disco); prog of various sorts; the Mexican, Argentinian and Brasilian rock David's introduced me to; the regional Mexican I hear on the radio (how's that for eclectic)

Movies? ... "Annie Hall", "Y Tu Mam´ También", "El Callejón de los Milagros", "The Matrix"

Books? ... Charles de Lint, Tanya Huff, "Sarum" by Edward Rutherfurd

Place? ... San Francisco

TV Shows? ... I almost never watch TV anymore, even if the TV is turned on

Games? ... I'm not really a gamer. But I played Zork way back in ancient times, and I enjoy imagining worlds in Sims/Sims 2

Shop? ... Marshall Field's in Chicago, Fry's in south Arlington

Bar / pub / club ... Bear's Place in Bloomington, Indiana

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¹ -- Tagging is when a blogger posts some questionaire like this and then names you as someone to blog about it next.

² -- A "risa explosiva" is a big, sudden, explosive laugh

Control-freak-ism 2: Flirting

Since mid-January, I've been driving this Mini Cooper S that I absolutely love. It's cute, it's fun, and it drives REALLY well.

In fact, late April, I took a trip and while I was at my destination I rented a car. They gave me a Toyota Corolla, which was fine. After all, I drove a Corolla wagon for 14 years, and then a Nissan Sentra for another 9. Man, that Corolla felt like it was floating all over the road, and I really appreciated how my MCS handles.

Then, a coworker got a Scion, and hybrids are popular topics of conversation these days. And I got curious. I went shopping for other cars .. and NOT Mini Coopers.

I got complacent, you know?

I was already used to my Mini.

I took it for granted. I got interested in looking around, asking myself "maybe there's something else out there"

And so, I went out and flirted a little. Nothing serious. Not even a visit to a car lot after the dealership had closed. Let alone a chat with a salesman or a test drive.

Just a little mental wandering ... looking around a little.

BUT .. because I looked, I found out that everything I want in my car, I already have in my Mini. And everything I wanted in the car buying experience, I got when I bought my Mini from Moritz.

AND I realized those things ... realized them actively ... ONLY because I went out looking.

So, ladies and gentlemen, don't get so worried if that special person in your life flirts a little. Chances are, he/she will only discover anew that YOU are the one they really want after all. And now they'll know it for real, not just because they remember knowing it from when you two got together in the first place.

On being a control freak

I'm going to reprint today's "horoscope" from Michael Lutin's web site
-- the daily fix section. I'm not linking to that section since, by the time you read this, what I'm going to quote will probably be gone. That's also why I'm reprinting it here.

No going on about how astrology is a bunch of hooey. Of course it is. But that's not to say there's nothing to learn there. It's like flipping a coin to make a decision -- it's not an act of giving up the decision, it's a gut-check to see how you feel about the "chance" decision the coin made. So, it's not that Jupiter has any control over anybody's life, or that the placement of stars vis-a-vis the geographic and chronologic event of your birth has anything to do with your personality. It's a way to ponder symbolism and archetype and make sense of the metaphors in your existence.

Ok, here's Michael Lutin's words for today:

It's difficult to be totally realistic and practical and keep your feet on the ground, especially when you want, crave, need and hope for a big break to help you change your life, lift you up, provide you with the kick and the push and the momentum you think you need.

So naturally you're likely to imbue a person, place or thing with powers he, she, or it can't possibly have in the hopes that this is the big one. this is what you've been waiting for.

Obviously, then, when people or opportunities turn out to be fatally flawed or just plain human, or in some way don't live up to your fantasies, hopes, dreams, wishes, and expectations, it's a letdown.

On the other hand, if you go into everything thinking it's not going to work out, then sooner or later you're going to make it so.

People have to be accepted for the human beings they are and as long as you keep your own life and don't give away all your power and put all your energy into fixing somebody who can't or won't be fixed, you'll be fine.

See, the challenge for the person who has to control everything is that they are setting themselves up for failure.

Worse, when they find these "failings" (which aren't really failings... they are just the things no one can control nor should expect to control), they have to decide ... "should I stay or should I go".

If they stay, despite the "failings" ... then they are saying that they deserve and accept failure. And it's a quick ride to misery to think that.

If they leave, because of the "failings" ... the are admitting that they were beaten by those failings (and, deep in their hearts they sense the truth ... that they're leaving something valuable behind, something they didn't HAVE to leave).

The only answer is ... LET IT BE.

Things will be as they are. You have to accept them, and let yourself see the joy and beauty and truth in them. Of course, turn and run from malicious destructiveness. Be wary of misguided maliciousness (the kind that comes when people are scared and insecure).

When you're a control freak, it's because you WANT things to turn out well.

The trick is, though, they don't turn out well unless you can let things go.

Just because you "let" things go their own way, doesn't mean they'll leave you forever. In fact, WHEN you let go, you'll find they stay around, if they were worth staying with in the first place.

How old?

I have my 49th birthday in a couple of days.

As happened as I was approaching 30 and 40 ... it's not those birthdays that felt like milestones to me. 30 wasn't so special, but 28 was ... at 28 I first had the thought that I was getting older, that I felt that the years were advancing.

And now, while 50 feels like a milestone, it feels like one *now* ... I even half wish I was turning 50 this year, because I feel like marking that age now.

I say I don't feel 49. In fact, in me, in my mind, there is a me: she has characteristics, and at moments, THAT me is the one that feels real, more real than the one that looks back at me in the mirror.

She's somewhere in her mid-30s. She's about 60 pounds lighter than I am in "this" one (the one I see in the mirror). She's got the knowledge I have now though. Except for one thing... she can communicate freely in Spanish.

Despite what I see in the mirror, some of that person does show. At least the age part. People regularly put me around 30. I've got a photo from last August where I swear I look 16. Another from last August where I could be in my 20s. I even get carded occasionally.

I used to joke that it was because I never got married, never had kids, and never had a mortgage.

But, in serious moments, I've been sure it was because I was still learning .. inquisitive, curious, slurping up with gusto whatever new things caught my fancy.

That may be what keeps someone "young", but ... aging has to happen eventually, right?

I've started to get ideas about what that aging means. Not the slowing of the body, the weakening of physical senses. Those haven't really happened to me (presbyopia notwithstanding) -- not even menopause, although perimenopause has been my companion for years now.

But I've just begun to notice other things. Not even changes in thinking ... what has changed seems to be dreaming.

Not night dreaming ... but rather the nature of the world I create in my mind.

There are things that I can no longer conjure up in my dreams.

Is that what aging is? When you can't create new worlds for yourself?

In another part of my life, the past few months have been kind of a training ground. The last month or two has been a training ground for yet another little segment of my life.

I feel like the next 12 months are a continuation of that. I have 12 months to decide what I REALLY want to do to mark the 50th anniversary of my birth.

Today, I really don't know what that would be. If I had to say, today: what do I REALLY want to do ... what would be enjoyable, fulfilling ... I couldn't answer, because I don't KNOW.

And each thing I tentatively consider trying on, to see if it will fit, I find myself saying "no... I could never wear THAT! I better look for something else"

12 months to see if I can start dreaming again.

Napping

enjoyed one of my favorite forms of napping this evening.

stretched out on the futon around 7:30, planning to read, but my eyelids had a different plan.

fell asleep ... had nice dreams! even though I don't remember any of them.

then, something woke me up ...

looked at the clock -- 11:20!! wow. I thought. I slept late this morning!

then, my eyes were drawn to the sliding glass door leading to the balcony, still open after today's rain and cooler temperatures, and its open vertical blinds.

dark .... it was dark outside.

I love it when I wake up from a nap and can't tell if it's morning or night -- the same day or the next day.

Sábanas frías / Ángel de amor

You know, I can psychoanalyze, intellectualize, philosophize, all you want. But, in the end, it still comes down to this.

I want to somebody to sing this song to me.

Sábanas frías - Maná

Cómo me duele este frío,
aquí en mi cama.
cómo yo extraño tus besos
en madrugada.

Quisiera dormir amor
sobre tus pechos.
quisiera vivir amor
atado a tus huesos.

Estas sábanas mi amor
están muy frías.
ven a darme tu calor
y arráncame el dolor.

Epale.

Yo te quiero compartir
toda mi vida.
te comparto mi cuarto mi cama
y todo mi amor.

Vente a vivir conmigo amor
que mi sábana está fría.
Vente a vivir conmigo amor
que mi cama está vacía.
Vente a vivir conmigo amor
hiriendo a mis sentimientos.
Sábanas frías sin su amor

Y te cuidará por siempre
y donde quiera,
te amaré como uno quiere
a su bandera.

Yo te quiero compartir
todo, todo mi amor.
te comparto mi cuarto mi cama
mis besos y todo, todo mi amor.

Vente a vivir conmigo amor.
vente a vivir conmigo amor.

Sábanas frías sin su amor,
que dolor, que dolor.

And I need someone to sing this to me:

Ángel de amor -- Maná

Quién te corté las alas mi ángel
quién te arrancó los sueños hoy.
quién te arrodilló para humillarte
y quién enjauló tu alma, amor.

Déjame curarte, vida
déjame darte todo mi amor.

Ángel, ángel, ángel de amor
no te abandones
no te derrumbes amor

Quién ató tus manos, ató el deseo
quién mató tu risa, mató tu Dios
quién sangró tus labios y tu credo
por qué lo permitiste, ángel de amor

Déjame curarte vida
déjame darte todo mi amor

Ángel, ángel, ángel de amor
no te abandones
no te derrumbes amor

Ángel, ángel, ángel te doy mi amor
abre tus alas
deja tus sueños volar

Ángel, somos arena y mar
no te abandones
no te derrumbes amor

Ángel, ángel, ángel te doy mi amor
abre tus alas
deja tus sueños volar

Ángel de amor
pero mi amor ya nunca te derrumbes
ángel de amor
pero mi amor ya nunca te derrumbes

Male/Female

Amid my reflections and study on the topics of love, relationships, and truth vs. selfishness, wanting, having, and manipulation, I've wandered into the topic of gnosticism.

This excerpt from an essay on Valentinus struck a chord:

Valentinians believed that God is androgynous and frequently depicted him as a male-female dyad. This is related to the notion that God provides the universe with both form and substance. The feminine aspect of the deity is called Silence, Grace and Thought. Silence is God's primordial state of tranquillity and self-awareness She is also the active creative Thought that makes all subsequent states of being (or "Aeons") substantial. The masculine aspect of God is Depth, also called Ineffable and First Father. Depth is the profoundly incomprehensible, all-encompassing aspect of the deity. He is essentially passive, yet when moved to action by his feminine Thought, he gives the universe form.

"Pienso luego existo"
"I think therefore I am"
or, more precisely: By thinking it, it can become so

But, as I wrote earlier, it takes two for the thought to become existence

It's all fine that my Thought is there -- the feminine aspect that makes existence possible. But, where is the masculine aspect that gives form to the existence of that Thought?

Poor little girl
With her head in the air
There's a poorly sick world all around you

Poor horny boy
One thing on his mind
That poor little girl
He must find you

There's a whole lotta love
Shaking inside of me
And I must figure out why it's there

There's a bottomless heart
That's hooked into all of you
And it's wondering how much you care

Poor little girl
With a whole in her heart
There's a poorly sick world all around you

Poor horny boy
One thing on his mind
That poor little girl
He must find you

There's a whole lotta love
Shaking inside of me
And I must figure out why it's there

There's a bottomless heart
Hooked into all of you
And it's wondering how much you care

Poor little boy
Head in a whirl
There's a phony slick world all around you

That poor little girl
With her head in the air
That poor little boy he must find you

There's a whole lotta love
Shaking inside of me
And I must figure out why it's there

There's a bottomless heart
Hooked into all of you
And it's wondering how much you care

There's a need and desire I have
To express what's inside of me
I must figure it out while it's still there

And an endless amount of
Of a joy that you touch me with
Thought it's almost too much for me to bear

Poor litte girl

Convince me

This is "But what would it take, part 2"

Because, before I can say "yes", I have to be convinced.

And I have to know what will convince me before anyone will be able to do that.

Show me and tell me -- use words, actions, whatever, the method of communication doesn't matter, the specific words and actions don't matter -- only that they are true

• that you want to be here. not because I might say yes. not because there's an opportunity to get into someone's pants. but because it's me you want to be with
  
  
• that, at least now, you feel love for me. I don't expect promises of forever, but rather that you know, now, today, that you feel love for me
  
  
• that whatever happens, we'll still be friends the next day ... even if we find we aren't supposed to be lovers, aren't supposed to be partners ... that whatever happens, it wasn't a mistake for us to feel awkward and regretful about afterwards
  
  
• that I can feel free ... to tell you what I want without inhibition, without fear that you'll criticize, and to ask you to tell me what you want

Convince me of those things, and I can say yes to someone I love. Convince me that those are not true, and I will say no. But until I'm convinced, I can give no answer