Yes, No, No Answer

One of the rules for negotiation between men and women has to do with navigating that "first" encounter ... in the matter of sex:

When a woman says "no", she means "yes"
And when a woman says "yes", she means "right now"

I was a little dismayed to hear that, since I never learned how to play those games, and, to be honest, I don't like playing games in relationships.

I was also puzzled ... if a woman says "no" in order to mean "yes", what about when she really means "no"? What does she say then?

The answer I got was: well, she probably won't answer.

I'm not sure that rule is very widespread in the US any more, though in my youth I think it was more so.

In any case, I can see how I could be misunderstood. Because for me:

yes = yes
no = no
and "no answer" = "convince me"